There is an art to douching. And the boys at Toys of Eros in Provincetown are spreading the word.
Douches are not all built alike. And just because you buy it in a drug store doesn’t mean it’s good. There are many kinds of douches with many different attachments. But many of them can be caustic to sensitive anal tissue, or can actually make things worse, creating a mess down there. We had to design our own to get the perfect douche. We call it The Perfect Clean, by Toys of Eros.
The best way to get clean, involves a two step process. This is because you have several chambers in your anal canal, that lead upward to your lower colon, and then your intestines. It never ends. But anal sex only involves the first chamber. With that in mind, let’s examine the douche set that Toys of Eros recommends.
There is one bulb to hold the water, and two different nozzles. (See Diagram.) The first nozzle you use is the one that has a hole in the tip, so the water shoots straight up into your rectum. If anything is inside the first chamber, you will expel it in a small bowel movement. It may come out as a little ball, or some loose watery matter. You only do this once. If you do it over and over again, the water will shoot higher and higher, until it loosens the fecal matter that is inside your colon, and then on to your lower intestine. That’s the fecal matter that’s supposed to stay there until tomorrow! If you keep using the “Straight Shooter,” you’ll be at it all night. Remember, you’re not giving yourself a colonic. It’s only the first canal that you want squeaky clean.
After you’ve used the straight shooter once, and only once, you will move onto the attachment with the holes on the sides, called the Flusher.Because the holes are on the sides of the nozzle, it sends streams of water sideways, flushing against the walls of your anus. Usually once will suffice, but if your super anal about being perfectly perfect down there you can use it as many times as you like, without any problems. Note: If you are constipated or need to move your bowels, you need to take care of that before you douche for anal sex.
Check it out The Perfect Clean, by Toys of Eros
To Douche or not to douche? See Anal Sex for Beginners
So he wants to have anal sex. First things first. No matter what anyone tells you, no one enjoys anal penetration with an average sized penis, or a dildo the size of a penis, without first working up to it. And by working up to it, we don’t mean using a finger for 10 seconds and then sticking your penis inside her anus. Working up to anal penetration with a penis, means using different sized toys over many sex sessions. To keep it pleasurable, everyone must start out small. Once someone turns off to anal sex, it’s difficult to come back to it.
Don’t start with a finger: Many newbies think the way to start exploring anal sex is with a finger. Don’t. A finger isn’t necessarily smooth and thin. There are toys that are smaller and smoother than a finger. Choose a vibrating slim anal toy to relax the anus even more. Toys of Eros favorites are the Silicone Pop Beads, the O’Boy, and the Harvey. They are all the size of a finger, made of safe silicone material, and vibrate. n
The three most important ingredients of anal play are relaxation, lubrication, and communication.
Relaxation: The anus is made of two separate muscles that are about a quarter inch apart. The external muscle is under your control, most people can tense and relax it fairly easily. The internal muscle is controlled by the same part of your nervous system as your breathing and heart rate. The more relaxed you are, the more relaxed this muscle will be. Stress and anxiety, including worry that anal sex will hurt, can make your anus tighten, resulting in less pleasurable or possibly painful anal sex.
Numbing creams might make the nerves in the anus less sensitive, but they won’t help the muscles relax. They may make it more difficult to notice uncomfortable sensations, which can result in irritation or damage to the tissues. That having been said, there are a couple of creams and lubricants that are safe to use, and can make anal sex more comfortable for a nervous beginner. Vibration also creates muscle relaxation, and we’ll get to that later.
Lubrication: Unlike the vagina, the rectum doesn’t produce lubrication, so everyone needs lube for anal sex. Lubricant is also perfect for anal foreplay. Put lube on your fingers and gently stimulate the opening of her anus first. Getting her turned on is a great way to help the anus relax. There are different kinds of lubricants for anal sex, but the best we have found are Uberlube and Slippery Stuff. First-time anal players must get used to these feelings, so the slower you go, the better.
Communication: Being able to talk with your partner about anal play is essential to making sure that you’re both enjoying it. Check in with each other about your physical comfort, what sensations feel good, or if you want to try something different. Newcomers to anal play might have difficulty describing exactly what they want. Try offering different options and ask which feels better. Even people who have lots of anal play experience find that talking while playing makes it more pleasurable. And read books and blogs on the subject!
Introduction to Anal Toys
Anal toys are the way to begin to explore anal sex. They are smoother than a finger, come in the proper sizes for maintaining comfort, and the angle and speed can be controlled better than a finger or penis. Beginners should start with a slimmer, vibrating toy for easier insertion. You have to buy a toy made for anal sex because anal toys have a base to prevent the toy from being sucked in past te sph anus clamps closed, making it impossible to retrieve a toy.
There are 3 major types of anal toys. Butt plugs, anal beads, and anal dildos. All three types also have vibrating versions. We suggest the vibrating versions for beginners. It gives you the full feeling without stretching the tissue, and relaxes the anus. and it feels even better than the non vibrating type!
Butt Plugs: Butt plugs are designed to remain stationary inside the rectum, and stay in place as the anal muscles grip the neck, creating a sensation of fullness. They’re hands-free and can be combined with any other sex play you like. During orgasm, anal muscles contract along with the muscles of the vagina or penis, so plugs intensify pleasure. When women wear a butt plug during vaginal penetration, the feeling of fullness, and the intensity of orgasm, is exaggerated tenfold.
These are the best, most comfortable plugs we’ve found.
Our Number 1 Choice:
The Novice, is the smallest, most luxurious plug ever designed. The silky silicone finish is enough for nervous beginners to actually want to pla withe Rechargeable and remote controlled, it has the all important vibrating settings for all tastes.
Our #2 Pick:
The O’Boy is slimmer than a finger, and has a strong removable bullet. The angle is perfect for prostate play
Our #3 Pick
The tiniest plugs of all, these don’t vibrate, but these also can’t scare away even the most intimidated beginners.
Anal Beads: Anal beads are exactly what they sound like — a series of beads that are either strung together on a cord or attached to a stem and inserted into the anus. They stimulate the anal opening because your sphincter muscle opens and closes over every bead. For some people, this feeling alone can induce orgasm, and for others, the removal of beads during orgasm acts as a great intensifier.
The classic way to use beads is to and gently slide each bead past the sphincter until the entire strand of beads is inside the anus. The most stimulation sensation is when you pull the beads out. Some people prefer to do this as they get close to orgasm, while others enjoy doing it during orgasm. You can also experiment with pulling them out slowly or more quickly, although don’t go so fast that you can’t savor the sensations
If you are not sure if you will like the feeling, start off with the inexpensive silicone beads. If you like anal beads and want to own a permanent string of beads, buy the Vixen silicone gem beads. They are the very best anal beads ever made. They come in 3 sizes. They are $100, but well worth it. Isn’t your butt worth one hundred dollars?
Vibrating Anal Toys: Vibrating anal toys are our first recommendation for everyone, and most especially for beginners. Vibrating anal toys create more intense and fuller sensations. A very small plug that vibrates will “feel” much bigger than it is, without stretching the tissues of your anal canal.
Vibration also relaxes your anal muscles, and makes it more enjoyable for nervous first timers. It is a great toy to use if you are warming up for anal sex with larger dildo or a penis. Anal beads, anal plugs, and anal dildos all come in vibrating versions. You can also use a vibrating anal toy on your clitoris or vagina. If you do that, it is doubly important that you clean it thoroughly, using with bleach or boiling water. These are the best vibrating anal toys, from inexpensive to high tech remote.
Anal dildos : If thrusting gets your juices flowing, then an anal dildo is the toy for you. are wonderful, whether you are using them with a harness or on their own. Dildos are perfect for working up to penetration with a penis, because she can experience the feeling of something going in and out of her, but you have control over the size, angle, and motion of a dildo while you play. You have a large variety of choices with dildos, and no choice when it comes to the size or shape of your penis. There are dildos that have bubbles or beaded shapes, which are fun because of the way each bubble interacts with the sphincter muscle. Many dildos have ridges or bumps which make them great for G-spot and vaginal play, but they may be too rough for anal play, so try something smoother. Here are the best of anal dildos.
Anal Vibrators : Vibrating anal toys are our first choice for an anal toy. Vibration relaxes tense rectal muscles. The area around your anal opening is extremely sensitive due to all those excitable nerve endings, and vibrations can act as a wonderful intensifier alongside butt plugs, dildos, oral sex, masturbation or on their own. Vibrating anal toys “feel bigger” inside, but don’t stretch the tissue. A thin vibrating toy can feel bigger than a large non-vibrating toy, without feeling uncomfortable. All 3 types of anal toys come in vibrating forms. Anal beads, anal plugs and anal dildos are transformed when they vibrate.
Beginners should always start with a vibrating anal toy. And ,if you end up not enjoying the vibration, just turn it off. The toy is still perfect to use with the vibration turned off. These are the best vibrating anal sex toys.
4th of July in P-town! As gay as it gets!
Provincetown is about as gay as it gets. And the 4th of July proves it!
Independence in Provincetown, Massachusetts is a week-long party festival from Thursday June 29, 2017 – Thursday July 6, 2017. Most of the large parties take place at the Crown & Anchor, which is a gay hotel and entertainment complex. Check out their schedule at OnlyAtTheCrown.com/independence.
And you can’t miss the infamous tea dances at the Boat Slip. They pumped it up for July 4th week. Starting at 4pm everyday is their IndepenDANCE Week – June 30th – July 7th and on the 4th, Fireworks & Extended Tea.
Uberlube… Provincetown Favorite Lube
If you want to consult an expert on lube, talk to a gay man. Here at Toys of Eros, we give away 100’s of samples of Uberlube a day. And it seems like everyone comes back the next day to buy it. The men of Provincetown have declared it their favorite lube of all time. And that’s enough for us.
In Short: The slipperiness is perfect and lasts forever. It doesn’t stain sheets or clothing, it has no taste, no smell, and is completley hypoallergenic. You can even drink it, it’s so safe.
We’ve got different needs than heterosexuals when it comes to lube.
The cheapest and the most familiar lube is water based lube. It’s cheap, smooth, slick, and easy to apply. It is compatible with all types of condoms, making it ideal for safe anal sex. It’s also really easy to clean up, just a bit of warm water and everything will be good as new, regardless of how much you want to use. YU can buy it with different consistencies, from super thick to thin, and have a million variations, warming, flavored, etc.
The cons: Water based lube dries out, and gets sticky and gunky, so you have to slop it on thick, and you have to keep reapplying it.
Keep Your Package Pumped
When the weather heats up, the clothes come off. When you are hanging with a crowd of friends or soon-to-be-friends, it is important to put your best dick forward! It is no secret that men check each others’ packages out and compare with others or themselves – constantly. Like it or not, we do make value judgements based on the size and shape of a man’s cock. That being said . . . MEN . . . it is vital that you remain at the head of the pack!
We love the winter. This is when Toys of Eros shines. We can really talk to you, and advise you with your shopping. Usually your alone in the store, and can ask all those embarrassing questions you don’t want to ask in front of 50 strangers. You can touch and turn on everything in the store, and we have time to explain everything. And everything in our store, (and most other stores,) are always on sale in the winter.
In the winter, you experience Provincetown as a local. It transforms into the fishing village and artist colony of 70 years ago.
To Stretch or Not To Stretch – That is the Question
A ball stretcher is a male sex toy that is used to stretch and elongate the scrotum. These devices are meant to wrap around the base of the scrotum and may come with attached cock rings. Ball stretchers may be made from materials like leather, metal or silicone, and they vary in size and by how far they stretch the scrotum. Some ball stretchers also act as weights, and some have rings to which weight may be attached.